Everyone loves being complimented, even if the praise evokes embarrassment or self -consciousness. Who can resist being told you’ve done a super job on a project, the meal you prepared was delicious, you’re wearing a beautiful outfit, your kids are terrific, or you played a great round of golf? What happens when you receive a compliment? Are you gracious and express your gratitude? Or, do you immediately dismiss the giver by pointing out that the job was easy, dinner was pre-packaged, your outfit is “a hundred years old”, the kids were told behave or else, or today’s game was a stoke of luck? I wonder why we dismiss the very thing we love to hear!
I used to brush off compliments. I’d offer reasons why I wasn’t deserving of them. Sometimes, I’d think someone was just being nice to me. I actually believed by my accepting a compliment without diminishing it, I might come across conceited. Then a friend taught me valuable lesson, which is opposite of what you might be thinking! When you thank someone for a compliment, you are actually honoring them. Your appreciation re-enforces their opinion. When you disregard or dismiss a compliment, the message you’re delivering actually disrespects the sender and their opinion. The bottom line to any compliment is to be gracious to the giver by thanking them and kind to yourself by accepting it gracefully. There are no exceptions!
If, as the saying goes, “It’s better to give than receive”, then think of the joy you feel when offering a compliment to someone else. Your effort is small and the reward to the recipient is huge. Just look at someone’s face when you tell them you like their outfit, you admire their work, you appreciate their help, or you would like their advice. Some people will dismiss the compliment by offering an explanation. Sound familiar? Others will accept your comment and simply say, “Thank you”. Whatever someone’s response happens to be, don’t let that deter you from persevering. Compliment the clerk at the cleaners, the check out person at the grocery store, the mailman, the person who un-jams the paper in the copy machine, the garage attendant, or anyone else who deserves your recognition. Paying someone a compliment feels good for both sides. Make giving compliments a habit. After a while, you’ll smile when a compliment comes your way and accept it in the full spirit in which it was offered.
by Dory Devlin
You know if she knows you’re feeling the pinch this year with rising gas prices, job uncertainty, and all-around-everything-is-so-expensive anxiety, Mom is not going to want you to spend a ton on her this Mother’s Day.
The market analysts who watch just how much we spend on what predict fewer dollars will be spent on Mom this May, though not in a big way. The National Retail Federation says, on average, we’ll each spend $138.63 on presents for mom, down from $139.14 last year, which still adds up to $15.8 billion. Tons of dough, which most moms would rather you not spend.
With that in mind, I thought my obligatory Mother’s Day post on Work+Money would focus on what working moms could use for Mother’s Day. If you ask any working mom, top of her list would be time. More time to get everything done that needs to be done. Time to just stop and be with our families.
Since my blogging roots are in tech, I always think of tech-related ideas first because tech is supposed to help us be more productive at work so we have more time for the other parts of our lives. So here a few tech ideas, and more importantly, ideas to give mom some time apart from all of her demands, and some other great ideas from the women of Shine.
Smartphone for a smart mom: Okay, if your mom is looking to make the leap from basic flip phone to a smartphone that will allow her to text and email with a full QWERTY keyboard, check email easily while on the road, the iPhone is all the rage and is very cool, but RIM’s BlackBerry Curve will do everything she needs. If you go the BlackBerry/iPhone route, take a tip from my chat with Lisa Belkin on her Life’s Work XM radio show the other day: Tell her to turn off the beeps and sounds that let you know when every single email has arrived so it doesn’t make her less productive and stressed. (Lisa does.) If you’ve got an older mom who is having trouble seeing the tiny, tiny print on her mobile phone, I recommend the Jitterbug phone, which is so intuitive to use, has large type on the screen, and can always reach a live operator by pressing zero. After the initial $147 purchase price, you can tailor monthly plans to how you use the phone, for as low as $10 a month. Continue Reading »
By Jewel Diamond Taylor
motivational speaker and author
Lord, I am a woman-on-the-grow.
Please help me…
* to find the strength to get up when I just want to give up.
* to speak up the next time he/she disrespects or abuses me.
* to guard myself from family/friends who challenge my trust, patience, time, faith and money.
* to be grateful and show up for my job even though I donâ€™t enjoy it.
* to be a good provider for myself and my family with less stress and struggle.
* to resist my additions. Continue Reading »